I remember that a long time ago, the "International Loneliness Rating Table" was circulated on Qzone and Weibo. Such a magical ranking made the majority of sensitive and easily "sorrowful spring and autumn" urban youths quickly take their seats.
What I admire very much is that from shopping in the supermarket by myself to moving by myself, to eating Haidilao alone to experience chatting with enthusiastic waiters, I have completed all the things below the tenth level on this form. I believe that most You've all done it too.
But I think level 10 must add one person to travel in addition to one person going to surgery.
But there is still a little difference between the two. In the eyes of most people, going to surgery alone is a kind of necessity, while traveling alone is a kind of self-choice in the eyes of most people.
If you say "lonely like a dog", my friend A, well-deserved "dog king", because all his travels, are! yes! one! indivual! people!
A should be regarded as a young actor with 18 lines now, the real 18 lines. I am not slandering him, he usually says that he is 38 lines.
When we gathered together to watch his vulgar web dramas, he would yell, "What the scriptwriter wrote is really shit, but I think what I acted is also shit."
But he paused for a while and thought about it, and then said, "But it's not because he didn't write well, after all, everyone can't help themselves." With just this sentence, the 38-line screenwriters at the scene wanted to stand up and applaud him.
A’s biggest hobby is to travel alone, and he took all the announcement money and squandered it all on "one-person trips". In his words, "Who said that one must be on the road, the soul and the body must be on the road, obviously they must be both! "
He is unrestrained and merciless, so you will never know where he will be when he contacts you next time. Once we made an appointment to go out for a drink, but he didn't come after waiting for a long time. Later, I finally contacted him and said that he Lost in a village in Yunnan.
We exchanged drinks in a bar in Beijing, and he was a blue dot on the green map of AutoNavi in the south of the colorful clouds.
He likes to be wild everywhere, probably because of the instinct of an actor, he will cosplay a brand new character in a completely strange place where no one knows him, it may be a rich second generation from a poor family, or a passionate boy who was cheated by his girlfriend , From character setting to mental journey, in his words, when a person arrives at a place, the original self is left behind, and the new self can do most things that one wants to do.
This is also the biggest reason why he likes to travel alone, because traveling alone is free.
You don’t have to stay up late to take the “red-eye flight” because of the time of your companions. You can do whatever you want when you arrive at your destination. You can sleep in a hotel until you wake up naturally, or dance on the road in the early morning. You never have to do a perfect strategy. , I won’t beat my chest and feet because I can’t squeeze into the scenic spots because I get up late, and it doesn’t matter if I meet a restaurant I like to eat, and I can eat for three days in a row.
Traveling alone greatly enriches the selfishness of a person who comforts himself. This kind of selfishness is placed in a fucking life, which is to satisfy oneself and do what one wants to do to the greatest extent.
"There are a lot of cues on the scene, and I always have to make my own decisions." When A said this, he really looked like an 18-line, but I still hope he can be more popular.
My friend B ended a relationship with things like traveling alone.
He and his girlfriend made an appointment to travel to Japan together, but they broke up before the trip started.
The two of them have really different personalities, so different that I once thought that they might not have read the almanac on the day they were together, and that the lone star of Tiansha met a strange flower, which exploded like a nuclear bomb every day.
I remember one time when I went to B’s house for a party, because the soup on the table had too much salt or too little, the two of them quarreled with each other, and the quarrel became emotional, and his girlfriend rushed into the kitchen He went out with a kitchen knife for cutting beef, raised the knife in his hand, slashed a hole in the wooden kitchen table, and said to A with wide eyes, "Come on, the big deal is that we will die together." B shouted, "Okay, Then you hack me to death."
This exciting drama-like highlight moment is staged every day in their relationship. In the face of this relationship, they have a lot of drama but enough sincerity, so I thought B himself would not go on this trip.
After all, people who have broken up know that all the fragility and sensitivity will be infinitely magnified in the solitude after the breakup, thinking that I can no longer have this person, but thinking of those moments I once had.
This is also why most people will choose to live a "group life" or "return late with a hangover" after breaking up. Companionship makes loneliness disappear, and alcohol makes pain forget.
But B went by himself and stayed in Japan for 10 days alone.
The circle of friends is updated regularly and regularly, but the selfies of two people and the selfies of one person have all become selfies of one person.
In the photos, he smiles in the morning mist of Mount Fuji, is chased by deer in Nara, gets lost in the streets of Tokyo, and gets drunk in bars in Osaka.
After he came back, he lost a lot of weight. I asked him why you lost weight because there are so many delicious foods in Japan. He told me in embarrassment that the guides about eating, drinking and living when we traveled together were all made by his girlfriend. , It's just that this time he was alone, so he didn't do any strategy. At most, he made four wrong subway trips a day.
A called this trip a "restart" node, because after this trip he resumed his life alone.
And in his mouth, although traveling alone is uncomfortable, it is the best way to adapt to a person's life.
Because during this journey you will find your own shortcomings, those shortcomings are quietly covered up by the other half who was once stuck in our lives.
We are all in a semicircle. After hugging, we rolled forward all the way. It was only when the other semicircle left the field early that we discovered our own incompleteness. Something to complete yourself.
A few days ago, I was talking with my friends about all kinds of traveling alone, and found out that traveling alone, those who love it will love it to death, and those who don’t, it is a public execution of the soul and body.
People who love it think that the sky is high and the sea is wide, and you can travel freely. There are not so many troublesome things by yourself. This is an escape from the life you lived in before. The scenery has changed, and the people have changed, but I am still myself .
People who can't do it think that the road is far away, dangers are everywhere, no one can take me to the hospital for headaches and brain fever, no one can help me when the mountains are high and dangerous, no one can say when I am happy and sad, I can't hide from the busy street, and I can't hide from no one around. night.
But in fact, I admire from the bottom of my heart those who can travel alone, because they really have the ability to dissolve loneliness.
The feeling that loneliness can bring to people is really uncertain.
A second ago, you still felt that you were a hero who wandered the rivers and lakes alone with a sword, walking alone among thousands of flowers, leaving no trace after fluttering in the world of mortals. It turned into a desolation that was hard to warm by myself. When I opened WeChat at 3:00 in the morning, I found that there was no one to chat with.
But in such loneliness, it is really a very brave thing to face your inner fragility and desire, as well as the peace and magnanimity you most want to achieve in your heart.
Regarding the "lonely like a dog", everyone knows that people will never become dogs, but people can always learn to be happy from being unhappy.
